Facebook re-enabled, looking things over, thinking about what to do going forward

My disabled Facebook account appears to be enabled again. There was no notification, I just happened to notice. I’m looking it over to see if everything’s there and if there is any indication of what happened.

It may have been restored naturally. Or maybe some emails I sent to suggested Facebook addresses, or a tweet to a known Facebook employee suggested to me helped. Or maybe my email to Mark Zuckerberg helped. It remains a mystery.

I looked things over though, and tried, without success, to find a way to inquire about what happened.

Support Inbox

In the Support Inbox there is no information about what happened. There is a dialog from April 2017 where they took down a post of mine. I objected, they apologized and said it was a mistake and restored the post. It was a link to a Washington Post article about Trump.

There was another post of mine from October 2020 where I made a joke about different election days for Democrats and Republicans. They asked me to take it down. I did at the time, but entered an objection. They just said thank you for your feedback. It was basically the same joke I posted in 2016 and 2012 about Republicans voting the day after Democrats to avoid crowds.

This is the entirety of my listed violations in over 10 years of being a member.

On the Support Inbox page it says I’m temporarily restricted from creating Pages until May 3 at 2:03 am. But it doesn’t say why except, “Our security systems are currently blocking you from doing something on Facebook, such as posting or sharing. This block is temporary. The length of a block depends on the severity of the violation and your history on Facebook.”

There is a link to appeal if I feel like it. I hadn’t planned on adding any new pages any time soon so I don’t know if it’s worth the trouble. I clicked the link to appeal out of curiosity though and it just said they could not process it at this time.

Groups I Manage

All the groups I manage are still there.

Pages I Manage

The pages I manage all appear to be there via the Desktop. However via the Facebook app on my iPhone is saying that United News Reports (my news page linked to a blog I post to) and Elliptics Domains (my company is a GoDaddy Reseller so I apparently created a page for that once, but forgot about it) are not visible.

If I look at the Elliptics Domains page it is just asking me to add more information, but not giving me any warnings. I must have not finished completing that page.

If I look at United News Reports reports it says it has been unpublished because it goes against their Community Standards. That happened the day before I got blocked.

If I look at the Community Standards all it mentions are graphic violence, hate speech, harassment, bullying, nudity, sexual activity and sexual exploitation. None of those were any part of that Page. If anything, it was the mildest Page of all. It just reported news I thought was interesting. I have a blog linked to it at https://unitednewsreports.com and I was wondering whether to continue it now that the election is over.

I clicked on Disagree with Decision but apparently all that will do is “use my feedback to make improvements on future decisions.”

I can still see the contents, and it really is quite harmless. The last entry is just an auto-post from my blog congratulating Biden.

My Trump Fact Book and my company Elliptics, Ltd. pages are there as usual. In fact just one minute ago I received a $5 offer towards boosting a post on Trump Fact Book. Weird.

I think it must be all bots doing this.

What to do going forward

I’m not going to up and quit Facebook. But I feel very different about it now. I don’t feel good about it. I don’t feel like sharing jokes and cute articles much. I probably will post more on my blog at https://lerner.net and maybe link those posts to my feed.

I’m also hesitant about using Instagram (owned by Facebook) any more. I think I’ll just post photos and videos to my blog. People who subscribe can see them, and I’ll post links to Facebook sometime. The point here is controlling my content and not having it suddenly taken away from me. I don’t want to be held hostage by Facebook again.

I’m also fixing up a social network I actually own, that my company created and hosts. It’s typically used by organizations like schools, non-profits, educational services, and private companies who want a private-labeled social network, where they completely control the membership and content and privacy, and can customize appearance and script it to add more features as they like. I have a demo site for it, and just renamed it lifemind.com today. Feel free to visit it and sign up if you like. It doesn’t have all the bells and whistles of Facebook, but it has some features that Facebook doesn’t, including personal blogs. You can create and join groups there, and make friend connections as well. I know very few people are going to bother joining yet another general social network though.

As for Messenger, I am not going to use that anymore. It would be too risky to suddenly lose contact with people again, and have them wonder what happened to me. I will take this chance I have to reach out to my contacts there and give them alternate ways of contacting me.

I want to thank everybody who was concerned about me going missing and making attempts to contact me during this time.

Life after Facebook

I was surprised a couple of days ago to receive a notice from Facebook that my account had been disabled.

To tell the truth, I felt more bemused than horrified at first. And I got a huge amount of real work done that morning! Of course I was curious what happened. I can’t access, but from friends I know they see a blank page for my profile, and they can’t see my Facebook Messenger messages anymore. Yet my groups and pages are apparently still there. I can’t tell though because I can’t login to check.

I did request review, and emailed my ID, and maybe soon I’ll be allowed back in. Or maybe I won’t. I really have no idea what happened.

If I do get back in I’m going to deemphasize Facebook in my life. And I will definitely stop using Facebook Messenger. People who communicate me solely via Messenger have no way of knowing what happened to me – unless my friends share a link to this blog post and let people know. Please do share this – I would appreciate it. More on messaging me going forward below.

My History with Social Networking

I’ve always been into social networking, even decades before it was called that. In college and grad school there were newsgroups. I think that system has been taken over by Google for their support forums. There were newsgroups for just about any topic in the world. All straight text. Scientific topics, social topics, math, movies. Just streams of text passed around from center to center.

Social networks of sorts even go way back before then. I’ve read about telegraph operators in the 1800s chatting with each other in between dispatching telegrams.

In the 1980s I had my own dialup BBS. It started with a single phone line, and eventually I had 8 lines and a switchboard thingie to handle the load. At that time, phone lines themselves were expensive, and members of my BBS gave donations to help pay for it.

There was also TWICS, which was started in part by my good friend Dave Fisher and his English school, Nichibei. Dave passed away last year at age 100, but that’s where we met – on TWICS.

After that came what people call the Internet today. It had already existed for some time as the U.S. government-created Arpanet, and access was restricted, but a decision was made to open it up and all sorts of things followed – websites and blogs and more. The world changed. I even ran one of the first dialup Internet systems in Japan in the 1990s – inJapan. The speed was 64 Kbps and I had massive dialup boards. Eventually I sold it to another company, but still have the inJapan.net domain, and there are still a few people I continue to support with their inJapan.net email addresses to this day.

My first experience with what we more commonly consider social networks was with Mixi – the Japanese social network. I’m still a member, but rarely login. And remember MySpace? I probably still have an account there.

And then came the behemoth – Facebook – which swept everything else away. There are now apparently over 2.7 billion members. That’s more than one-third the entire human population of Earth. Something that large is hard to compete with.

Alternatives to Facebook?

Is it still possible to have private, independent social networks? Yes, of course. In fact my company makes and hosts such software – WebCrossing Neighbors. While Facebook-like (or Mixi-like), it’s for defined groups like schools, churches, non-profits, clubs, education networks, and companies who want complete control over their content and branding.

Is it possible to do have a social network other than Facebook anymore and still find your old friends and relatives, and all those groups, and link everybody up the way Facebook does?

The neck is getting people to join something else – some place extra in addition to where they already signed up. People consider joining new sites a nuisance. If you create a sub-Reddit, you might get people to join because a lot of people already belong to Reddit. But if you make your own small social network, it’s hard to convince people to sign up for yet one more thing unless it’s a well-defined circle or organization. It’s even hard to get people to subscribe to your personal blog these days. You can subscribe to my blog here if you want to be sure to stay in touch.

What is it about sharing?

Not everybody feels the need to share. I realize that. I know people who are perfectly happy to live without constantly sharing everything they are interested in and thinking about. And some of my more private friends wonder why I bother.

Yet, I do feel like sharing. I’m just that kind of person. I see someone famous passed away today (as I write this it’s Hal Holbrook). I feel like sharing memories or thoughts about him. I see the state of emergency in Tokyo has been extended another month. I feel like talking about that with other people who live here – and the impact on the Olympics and summer travel. It’s tax season. I feel like sharing some info I have about how it’s done differently this year at the tax office (you need reservations via LINE). I heard something funny and feel like telling friends about it. I have cute new pictures of (or gripes about) Pao I’d like to share.

Where can I continue to do that and still reach my circle of friends (and friends of friends)? Unfortunately that place seems to be FaceBook. Where we can be disconnected without cause or notice. Where we don’t really own our content. Where we can lose our ability to send and receive messages, and lose possibly important private conversations.

I’m trying to find other alternatives and wonder – will anybody else be willing to join me? Another place besides FaceBook where people who are your friends feel it’s worth going through the trouble to sign up and visit and participate?

Messaging with me going forward

Even if I’m let back in I will stop using Facebook Messenger. It’s too risky I feel. If you are trying to reach me, there is always tried-and-true email. I’m doug(at)lerner.net. If you are an iPhone/iPad/Mac user, you can also use my email address to reach me via the standard Message app. If you are an Android or iPhone user, you can use the most popular messaging app in Japan, LINE. It’s also available around the world. Install it from the App Store or Google Play. You can “add a friend” and search for me by ID or phone number. My ID there is taohao.

Or you can scan my QR code and add me as a LINE friend. Please tell me who you are when adding me.

I’m also on WhatsApp, but I intend to stop using that. They are owned by Facebook, and starting February 8 will start sharing all sorts of info between WhatsApp and Facebook. Who knows, maybe I’ll be disconnected there as well.

I might also stop using Instagram – also owned by Facebook! The only reason I joined was because it made it easier to share photos with both Instagram and Facebook users. But now I don’t trust them so much.

I used to do most of my sharing via this blog. Look how far back entries go! Here I control the content. With a Neighbors social network also, people can have their own blogs and communities. Let me know if you or your organization is interested in setting up a site. But I think that’s not going to grab most of my social network friends. And friends of friends. And long-lost friends who I found again on Facebook. And relatives I didn’t know I had.

Facebook is an interesting experience. If I’m allowed back in I’m not saying I will shut down my account. But I will definitely download my content. And I will not use it as much as I have been, and will try to work on something different, yet still stay in contact with all the people I’ve enjoyed communicating with all these years.

More later when I think through things more… your thoughts are welcome.

Politics, friends, family, sharing

Going forward as the new decade approaches, and we enter the presidential primary season, and then the elections, I always feel a need to post about politics.

Yet… yet… I feel many of my political posts to FaceBook friends, and here in my personal blog, are counter-productive, and even spoil the mood. I know some friends on FaceBook have not unfriended me, but have unfollowed me because of all my political posts. And basically all my cousins are Trump supporters for some reason I can’t fathom. Yet, they are really nice people as family, and very supportive! What can I say? Politics divides, but friends and family unite.

There are also some other people I’ve become very friendly with who are, I think, still reading my posts. Yet I know they are conservative and very religious, while I am neither. But they are truly, truly really nice people, and I value their friendship, and greatly enjoy the times we spend together.

So what to do? It’s like a mega version of one those Thanksgiving Dinners you hear about where everything can blow up if we’re not careful about what we discuss at the dinner table.

Politics really is just one part of who I am. Yet it’s been a part for as long as I can remember, getting involved in presidential elections since I was a McGovern volunteer in New York City was I was 15 years old! I worked the switchboard, manned the souvenir shop, and sat at pamphlet booths outside the campaign office. I still remember the theme music, “There’s a new world coming, it’s just around the bend…” I still can’t believe McGovern lost. After all, everybody I knew voted for him. 🙂

Anyway, I’ve made a decision to tone done politics here in my blog, and also in my personal FaceBook feed. Besides, everybody I agree with politically already agrees, and I’m not going to convince everybody else. So it just adds to noise to some extent.

But I do want to stay involved. So, instead of my FaceBook feed, which is private, I’m taking my political/election posts to a group I created, “Victory 2020 – How to Defeat Trump.” That is a public group for people who want to defeat Trump next year. People are welcome to join if you are on that side of the political aisle, and also share it so get others to join. People who like Trump can just ignore it! 🙂

I also have a political-based blog/newsletter I created at https://unitednewsreports.com, which I’ll be using more for general ranting about politics as time goes on, separate from my main blog. You can sign up for it or not. It’s just a hobby for me.

Here, in my personal blog, and in my personal FaceBook feed, I’ll talk about important, yet less divisive things like Monta, animals, diet and health, Japan, St. Louis, culture, language, photography, tech talk and other things I find interesting. And I will share some things which might be of a social nature, like climate protection, and about how we treat immigrants, and basic fairness and equal rights – which I think should be bipartisan.

There are so many outlets these days. And I definitely don’t want to leave it all with FaceBook, so that’s why I continue my personal blog here at https://lerner.net. 

We now resume regular programming.